If they return, they were always yours.
If they don’t, they never were!
At times it can happen when you see or read a saying or quotation that really strikes you and of which you feel it is really true. So for me with the saying above.
I believe that the relation that I have with Marion is so successful because we give each other freedom and space to move.
We don’t react disappointed when one of us wants to do something alone or with friends. When for instance Marion and Sanne want to go shopping alone, that is all fine with me. Or that they want to go together on a holiday (as last year to Sweden) that is okay.
We don’t push appointments up to each other. When one of us wants to go somewhere, we only check if we don’t have things planned together. We certainly not go asking if the other would mind if you want to go somewhere. Also we don’t expect the other to come along with all. If other wants to come along, then it good. No pressure on each other.
We respect each others interests and hobbies. We give each other time and room for those hobbies. As example, Marion loves to go shopping, which is not really my thing. On the other hand, I love to go to concerts and that is something that Marion doesn’t really like (she dislikes to stand in a crowd for hours).
People should stop to enforce own opinions, interests and things to do on others. Especially not in a relation. It will kill the relation in my opinion…. Hence the many divorces these days!
Freedom and space to move…. it makes the relation Marion and I have a better one.
(Edited a bit to make things more clear and to remove some bad grammar)
Lock someone up and he or she will try to escape.
Give someone to possibility to move around and he or she will have no need to run.
It is all a matter of trust.
hear hear. And so it is!
Often when in a relation people become possessive. They want that their partner is 100% dedicated to them. Although many people deny this, I see it all around me.
Indeed no wonder about all those divorces.
I have respect for the way you and my daughter are sharing your lives. Life isn’t indeed a prison, it is a world of many roads that can followed and all by free choice.