After a very long period of suffering with her health my dear mother passed yesterday away… We knew that this sad day would arrive and now that it is here it brings a lot of sadness for us.
Last Friday my sister in law was called by the home where my mother stayed that the health problems of my mother were turning worse. So we, her children, made plans to visit her on very short turn.
During the night from Friday to Saturday my mobile phone went off. And even with sleep still having its grip on me, I knew what this would be about….. the situation of my mother even turned more bad or worse. When I heard the voice of my brother I already realized that our mother was no longer with us.
Luckily it seems that my mother passed away during her sleep, so there was no struggle and pain there. I was told that her face was very peaceful (I don’t want to see her after she left us. I want to keep her in mind as she was alive).
As said, my mother’s health was facing many problems. And it is amazing, close to unbelievable, how long she managed to handle these matters (at times just ignoring them) and stayed with us. I am convinced that her clear mind and strong spirit, combined with her everlasting optimism, was the main reason for this.
Only in the last period of her life it seemed that she lost a bit her grip on things and facts, but I surely hope I will have strength of mind whenever I will reach her age.
Sanne made the remark that finally my mothers work was done and now she could rest. Her oldest son and daughter already found their steady spot in life, meaning in relationship and a place to call home. Only her youngest one (being me) was not completely set yet. Someone special to share my life with I already had found, but only a place to call home was an uncertain matter yet…. but recently that changed. All is now arranged to buy the apartment where I am living now. So Sanne said, now my mothers work was completed. All her children found a place to call home and be happy.
I don’t know if this true, but at least it is very nice thought.
Reading over this article, it shows not really the things that I wanted to say. But for now I have not really the words I think. Time will bring those words. For now this is good.
When I decided to write this article on my blog I didn’t want to post a link to it on Facebook as I usually do. But after a dear friend wrote some very comforting words on my Wall there and Marion said that Facebook is not only about fun things…. it is about life, so also about the sad things that belong to it. So that is why I posted there the link to this article.
Even though I as person do not believe in things as an afterlife, I hope for my mother there is an better place where she can now enjoy an existence without the pains and problems here body gave here during her life…
“Ma, we zullen je heel erg missen….”
(Credit photo: Rob)